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Something as countable as sperm.
It’s the last day of the year 2018! I thought to myself what better time to share this poignant but not the last piece of my mind if not today after many days and weeks of postponement? I mean, it’s been a long and eventful year with so many ignorant, myopic and patriarchal expressions and writings littered all over the social media space and also with tireless back to back writings and verbal expressions consistently dedicated to humiliating, questioning, criticizing and making a correction of these shameful and uninhibited patriarchal mindsets expressed in writings. As someone who has been a victim of these ridiculousness a couple of times, I’m not…
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LET THE PANTS BREATHE
I cannot for the life of me understand how we got to this place where being female is so difficult💁. For an African woman, being female is never a walk in the park. It’s like a humanized version of shame that you not only have to be for the rest of your life but also rock silently. But then, what is shameful about being a woman? What exactly is? Cos for me, it is difficult to figure out why being born with a vagina should bring so much discomfort, inconvenience, drama, restrictions and pain. Sometimes, I’m forced to lash out to people and say, it’s like you’re not getting it,…
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The Unending Misogynistic Marriage Conversations
It’s hard not to feel humorless, as a woman and a feminist, to recognize misogyny in so many forms, some great and some small, and know you’re not imagining things. It’s hard to be told to lighten up because if you lighten up any more, you’re going to float the fuck away. The problem is not that one of these things is happening; it’s that they are all happening, concurrently and constantly. – Roxane Gay, Bad Feminist. Hi! It’s been a while. . . oops! Scratch that! I know that doesn’t cut it right. Too simple a greeting for being so far away from the blog for that long🤦. I’m…
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THE MARRIAGE NARRATIVES
Can I just say that apart from the fact a man is entitled to his opinions, some of y’all social media Judges need to take a chill pill and calm down with the Timi Dakolo lashing out. . . #mansgotpoints! Two days ago, I woke up and had read one of these gist on Instablog9ja about marriage (Tonto Dikeh’s) and I was so sad because number one, it felt like the issue wasn’t going anywhere soon and two, like how do we get to the place of hating so passionately what we once loved, protected, defended and sacrificed for so passionately? And then I realized that sometimes, maybe it takes…
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