ON BODY SHAMING: NIGERIAN WOMEN NEED TO DO BETTER
Pheeew! It’s been a while. Well, it feels good to have gathered enough momentum to be back here.
Often times when we speak of body shaming and how ridiculously shameful it is to engage in the act, we don’t speak of how endangering it can be to building and raising a community of true women supporting and standing up for one another because for me, I don’t think body shaming in itself is the saddest part, I think the fact that women are mostly the perpetrators of this act makes it the saddest.I don’t think body shaming in itself is the saddest part, I think the fact that women are mostly the perpetrators of this act makes it the saddest. Click To Tweet
A lot of times, women come for one another’s bodies for silly reasons like trying to feel better about themselves, ridiculously trying to be petty, trying to bring the other woman down for no reason, thereby watering their self-esteem, showoff too, sometimes and other ridiculous excuses.
Last week, one of the most controversial media personnel, Kemi Olulonyo stated a ridiculous fact that sadly everyone seemed to agree to that “women in Nigeria aren’t bound to support one another or stick together, they are bound to tear one another part or bring each other down.” Well probably that’s not how she said it but that’s the summary of the quote and as much as I would love to disagree, a high number of people sadly concurring says a lot about the reality of women love, respect and admiration in Nigeria.
Many months back, popular OAP, Toke Makinwa shared her struggle with fibroids and how it really made her look bloated and all and all. Well, the essence of referring to this story is not to analyze the story or other events that happened after that revelation but it is to actually examine the reaction of people after she made the revelation. A lot of people were like chai, and I used to insult her all those times when she would dress and host events and parties and all, not knowing she was going through this. You know that’s why it’s not good to body-shame people because you don’t know what they are going through.”It’s really sad how we get used to things that are condescending in the bid to stomach and understand the foolery behind the utterances. Click To Tweet
As much as those words might have projected a kind of sobriety, I think it says a lot about who we are; that we cannot be compassionate, be kind with and in our words unless we know the story.
Sometimes, I’ve heard a lot of people come for my body, my boobs, my legs, etc. and no, it really doesn’t get to me, that’s the truth because somehow, I’ve managed to get used to it you know. It’s really sad how we get used to things that are condescending in the bid to stomach and understand the foolery behind the utterances.
The truth is, people go through so much struggling with that part of their body you shame and when they don’t, that part of the body might have probably gone through a lot or withstood a lot. And I also think that the worst kind of body shaming ever are the ones that tend to sound like jokes, comedy and seem funny to people.
All these ridiculous comics about how a fellow woman looks like pencil, overripe plantain, yam legs, fat arms, amoeba-ic shape, lime breast are so annoying. Sometimes, I’m forced to ask the questions, to what end? What kind of sour comedy is that?The truth is, people go through so much struggling with that part of their body you shame and when they don’t, that part of the body might have probably gone through a lot or withstood a lot. Click To Tweet
I’m just saying, as Nigerian women, we need to do better. Don’t wait to know the story to do better! Be kind. It doesn’t cost a thing.
Have a wonderful week! It feels good creating time to be here.
Much love! ❤️